“The biggest regret of my life is
It is the hardest moment to type on the keyboard. It is time to speak about some truths that I have accumulated inside myself, unable to admit to myself for years… Sometimes people find strange ways to struggle in life. He invented various defense mechanisms. While shouting loudly for others, he always remains silent for himself, keeping it inside himself. I have lived in a spiral of mental, physical and economic violence of unimaginable scale for years. I covered up the violence and horrific manipulation that I suffered throughout my marriage by saying, “I will not leave this story to my children, so that they will not remember me like that, and so that my own victimhood will not creep in.” The way I work. ” My greatest regret is that I remained silent for so long, as if what I experienced was my fault. I tried to deal with the violence I experienced on my own. For years I did not even share these things with my family, except that they were witnessed by them.
There are only two exceptions to this…
My brother Lalehan Güle and lawyer Gözde Egemen. They both witnessed everything…For years I didn’t have the courage to divorce out of fear. I know I called the police to protect them, but when the police came, I gave up and sent them away because I thought it would be on the news and it would have a negative impact on my children.
Now when I open it and look in the drawer, I see divorce papers dated 2019 that Gözde and I prepared… none of which could be processed…
Finally last year I mustered up the courage to file a lawsuit just to get rid of this violence and torture, but I was threatened again and accepted the divorce terms imposed.
But my dear fellow citizens, my divorce did not save me from the violence…
“Every day I face insults, slander and threats. But I will no longer remain silent. I will initiate the necessary legal procedures. I have full faith in the law and justice.”
If there are women who sympathize with me, I say, “I understand, but please don’t stay silent!” As long as there is silence, the violence will continue. Even if you get divorced.
Take away the men who see you as their property, as a puppet they can control, the men who humiliate you and trample your confidence, the men who raise their hands against you, the men who exploit all the hard work you have accumulated over the years, and all the income you have earned in return for your work.
Let’s raise it…
let’s stop.
Enough said already…
sufficient! “
